My husband and I do some pre-marital counseling at the church, and we like to do one whole session on unrealistic expectations in marriage. I know I had them when we got married. I think I still may have one or two lying around. For instance, for the whole first month of our marriage, I got up early and cooked Mikel breakfast. I mean eggs and bacon, biscuits, and sometimes even hashbrowns…the whole 9 yards. I thought that’s what a “good wife” did. After about a month of it, he kindly told me, “Ummm, I don’t really like to eat breakfast!” He never said he wanted a hot breakfast every day, and I never asked. So I went to all that trouble and took all that time and put all that pressure on myself based on an unrealistic expectation of what a good wife was. Sometimes we set expectations for ourselves when it comes to God no one could ever live up to….
